Australian 1st Year University Experience – Making Friends

Australian 1st Year University Experience – Making Friends

My friend and I were talking about caste system and reservation back in India. We know it is wrong. We do admit it. However every side of the coin has two sides.

I noticed how back in India, often people would ask me if I am a Brahmin since my surname is Roy. People whom I had just met that day would ask me such question. It was weird to me that someone would pry so much into someone else’s life even though they barely know them.

You know in India you suddenly become friends with someone. I mean for example, once I was sharing a room in the dorm with another girl who was also from my hometown. That’s all I knew about her. That she was from my hometown. Suddenly we became close friends. We didn’t need to know much about each other.

However in Australia, I have found it is quite difficult to make friends.

For example, I have several people I know from my tutorials whom I talk to on a regular basis however they still wouldn’t consider me as their friend. Not all are Australians. Most of them are international students. Nevertheless, it is even more difficult to converse with other international students.

Sometimes it is the language barrier. Specially with first year international students, some of them can write in English really well but they can’t speak English that well. It feels like they don’t want to even try talking to me.

The majority of the friends I have are from my university accommodation. I met them during the first few weeks. To be honest I feel bad calling them friends since I barely know about them other than their major or a bit about their daily life.

I look at other students around me and I feel really guilty of not making as many friends as they have.

They all seem to be hanging out, enjoying life and doing activities together. However, I am barely going out. Barely doing anything.

All day and everyday I just stay in my room. Nobody calls me up until and unless they need my help with their ASSIGNMENTS. Suddenly during the deadline period everyone becomes my friend. They sugarcoat everything so that I help them.

Regardless of this, I am waiting to find out what my life will be like in future.